If you ask any young adult what their main stressor in life is, it’s likely something that relates to uncertainty. If you were to boil it down to a sentence, it’d be something along the lines of: “I really don’t understand what I am doing with my life.”
How often have you heard someone say that? (How often have you said that you don’t like your life?) Probably a lot. The idea that we ought to understand is a heaping pile of socially crafted bullshit that’s been superimposed on our psyches since kindergarten, and it’s holding us back.
Nobody — not one of us — understands “what we are doing with our lives.” We can’t summarize the large picture, not yet. We don’t know what we’ll do in five decades, and be pretending that we may forecast that isn’t being accountable or challenging, it is cutting off ourselves from living according to our internal navigation systems instead of the story we once thought would be right.
You owe nothing to a younger self.
You are not accountable to be the person who you once thought you’d be.
Do you understand why you don’t possess the things you once thought you wanted? Have you any idea why you’re not the person you once thought you would be? Because you don’t want those things anymore. If you did, you would have and be them.
If you’re wondering “what you should do with your life,” it’s likely that you are in the limbo between realizing you do not want what you once did and giving yourself permission to want what you want now.
Thinking you know what you’re “doing with your life” quells your own appetite. It soothes your mind with all the illusion that your route is laid out before you, and that you no longer have to choose, and it is another way to state, you’re no longer accountable for becoming the person you want and will need to be.
Hunger is important. Total fulfillment is the fast track to complacency. People don’t flourish when they’re fulfilled. They stagnate.
Thus f#*k being aware of what you’re “going to do with your daily life.”
What do you do today? Who do you love? What would you do today if you could be anyone you wanted? If social media did not exist? What do you wish to do this weekend?
“What do I need” is a question you need to ask yourself daily. The items that run accurately will weave through your own life, the ones that pop back up, again and again, are the ones you’ll follow. They will turn into the places you remain, the people that you’re attracted to, the choices that you make.